戴維·博伊斯

超級律師,，Boies Schiller & Flexner的創(chuàng)始人

????“先聽再說,，”我13歲時父親就對我說?！叭魏沃档脤υ挼娜硕贾档帽粌A聽,。”好的建議,，真正被采納往往需要一段時間,。我可以理解，如果我想了解某一個課題,，需要注意聆聽老師或任何有專門知識的人講述,。但我過去總是認為,，我比跟我談話的人懂得更多（有時確實是這樣）。

????后來,，我逐漸意識到幾乎每個人都會有一些知識,、真知灼見或經(jīng)歷是我所不曾有過的，或者可以說,，有些東西,，即便說的不對，也能觸發(fā)我一天不曾有過的思考或想法,。

????即便我只想教導(dǎo),、說服或誘惑他們，傾聽依然重要,。當(dāng)我注意傾聽時,，人們也更愿意聽我在說什么。

David Boies

Superlawyer, founder of Boies Schiller & Flexner

????"Try to listen before you speak," my father told me when I was 13. "Anyone who's worth talking to is worth listening to." It was for some time hard advice to take onboard. I could understand listening to a teacher, or anyone with special knowledge, about a subject I was trying to learn. But I often thought I knew more than the person I was speaking with (and occasionally I did).

????Over time I came to understand that almost everyone knows something or has some insight or experience I do not -- or can say something that, even if wrong, triggers a thought or idea I might not otherwise have.

????Even if my only interest in someone was to teach, persuade, or seduce them, listening was still important. People I listen to are more willing to listen to me.