吉姆·柯林斯:有些時候,,你捫心自問:我是否已經(jīng)傾其所有,、竭盡全力,想盡一切辦法,?我的意思是,,即便全力以赴,結(jié)果仍然可能是失敗,。雖然失敗了,,但你知道這是無奈的失敗,你已經(jīng)做到了最好,,無法再苛求,。你并沒有成功,但雖敗猶榮,。對我來說,,攀巖就是不斷考驗著自我放棄和被迫放棄的抉擇,。這完全是一個內(nèi)省的歷程,那些峭壁懸崖并不在乎,,一切都在這兒,。
還有一點我學到的是,始終讓自己保持對事物的新鮮感,?;蛟S飛釣愛好者也會有這種感受吧。不斷去尋找新的事物,,保持初學者的心態(tài),。攀巖時,你可以說,,我要多爬爬自己已經(jīng)很拿手的路線,,或者我要爬最簡單的路線。又或者,,你可以說,,我還不太擅長跨越寬縫,所以我要在52歲時搞定寬縫,。為什么呢,?因為我爬得太爛了啊,這樣我才能夠像初學者一樣滿懷熱情地去爬,。如果你時常去做一些自己陌生的事情,,那你就能獲得初學者的那種快樂心情,這種感覺非常棒,。我妻子說,,我是她所知道的最專業(yè)的初學者。我覺得她說得很對,,我一旦掌握了某種技能,,就把它歸入我的技能庫。我真正感興趣的是探索未知的過程,,攀巖就是這樣。
最后,,攀巖之所以對我來說非常重要,,正是因為可以從中學到如此多的東西。我們談了許多人的問題,。我年輕時,,總是先問自己,想爬什么路線,,然后再問想和誰一起爬,。生活其實就是和人打交道?,F(xiàn)在我不再這么問了。我會先問想和誰一起爬,,再問想爬什么,。因為在攀巖過程中真正的價值還是在于你的同伴。說到底,,巖石無情,,只有同伴才會關心你。
關于攀巖我做了些研究,。我的一些朋友會問我,,我想爬這個,你要不要一起來,?還有些朋友則直接問,,我們周六一起去攀巖吧。這種我一般都會答應,。我會回答,,好啊,那我們八點在停車場見,。在見面前,,關于爬什么,我們只字不提,。等到八點見了面,,我們會先聊一刻鐘左右,然后突然來一句,,喂,,哥們兒,你說今天我們玩點什么刺激的,? |
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Jim Collins: Fallure counted as success, didn't matter whether or not I made the top. The question is, did I go to fallure? And that to me has been kind of a life lesson; 'cause there's lots of choices between failure and fallure. There come these moments, do you put everything in, did you try you hardest, did you know that you couldn't have left one little thing unturned? I mean, you put, you know, you went, you still might have failed. You might not have made it, but you know what was a fallure attempt. You looked at it and you can’t expect any more out of yourself. Because you didn't succeed but you did it with honor and therefore, you succeeded. And for me, climbing is a constant test piece of failure and fallure and it's an inner journey and that cliff doesn't care. But, it's all what happens in here.
The other is, and a thing I think is about kind of keeping yourself anew but maybe it happens in fly-fishing too. Always be looking for the things that will make you a beginner. Huh? So, you can kind of, as you go along, you can say, I'm going to do more and more of this stuff I'm already expert at. And I'll do the climbs that I can most easily achieve because I'm most expert at those. Or, you can say, I'm not very good at wide cracks, for example, I think I'll go do wide cracks at age 52. Why ? Because I'm really bad at them. I will therefore get the joy of being a beginner. And the wonderful aspect of throwing yourself constantly into situations, where you aren't very good at it, which then allows you the joy of being a beginner. My wife likes to say I'm the most expert beginner she knows. And actually I think that's really true, climbing is a place where I actually, once I've mastered something I'll just put it in my repertoire. What I'm really interested in is the journey through what I don't know, and climbing provides that.
And the last thing from climbing that's been really key for me is, there are so many things from climbing. We talked a lot here about the people thing. When I was younger, I used to say, what climb do I want to do and I'll try to figure out who I can get to go with me. And if life is people and I think it is. I don't do it that way anymore. It's who do I want to climb with and then I'll figure out what to climb. Because the real quality of the experience is in who you're climbing with. In the end, because again, the rock doesn't care. The rock doesn't love you the way your partners do.
So, those have all been; now that's one I took from the research back to the climbing. I have friends that are always just like, this is the climb that I want to do, do you want to go with me? And then I have others, whom I tend to climb with a lot, who say, let's go climbing on Saturday? Ok, great, let's meet at the parking lot at eight. And we don't even talk about what we're going to climb. Until we met there at eight. Probably talk for about 15 minutes and not talk about the climbing and then, what do we want to get scared on today? |