職場完美主義是把雙刃劍
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????而且,，許多人長期堅持完美主義，甚至已經(jīng)成為第二天性,。西曼斯基稱：“許多成年完美主義者跟我說,，他們在大學(xué)時經(jīng)常不能按時上交學(xué)期論文，甚至在中學(xué)時也無法按時完成家庭作業(yè),；成人后,，他們又經(jīng)常耽誤工期，而根源都在于追求完美主義的性格,。” ????他說：“完美主義者希望把每件事都做得更好,，這當(dāng)然是好事,。可問題在于,，這么做可能會陷進(jìn)自我的世界里,，而忽略了別人最重視的方面?！?/p> ????但不必因此感到氣餒,。西曼斯基表示：“你說自己在四年內(nèi)獲得了兩次升職，這證明在你的完美主義性格中,，有對你有益的部分,。老板的意思是讓你稍微調(diào)整一下自己?！?/p> ????以下四條建議可助你一臂之力： ????1. 征詢他人的意見,。首先從老板開始。西曼斯基建議：“有一些項目的最終期限比其他項目更為靈活,。應(yīng)該弄清楚哪些項目難度更大,，進(jìn)度更快,，而哪些項目的期限是有‘彈性’的?！?/p> ????“不斷推進(jìn)工作的同時,，可以向其他人，尤其是老板展示工作的草樣,?！?/p> ????他認(rèn)為，完美主義者通常不擅長這么做,，因為“他們希望其他人看到的是最完美的成品,。但實際上，征求別人的建議有極大的幫助,，可以避免鉆進(jìn)死胡同,，導(dǎo)致耽誤工期。只要跟別人說：‘這是我正在進(jìn)行的工作,。你有什么意見,？’就是這么簡單?！奔幢阋淮涡⌒〉暮献饕材茏屪罱K產(chǎn)品更加完善,。這樣的情況已經(jīng)屢見不鮮。 ????2. 設(shè)定優(yōu)先順序,。西曼斯基強(qiáng)調(diào)：“完美主義者通常認(rèn)為所有任務(wù)都同等重要,。但實際情況并非如此?！?/p> ????他在書中詳細(xì)解釋了如何確定哪些項目應(yīng)該由自己親自負(fù)責(zé),，哪些可以放心地交給同事處理。他認(rèn)為,，其中的關(guān)鍵在于“挑選出五個最至關(guān)重要的任務(wù),，持續(xù)跟進(jìn)。其他的盡管放手交給下屬就是了,?！逼鋵崳@么做并不意味著降低工作標(biāo)準(zhǔn),，而是因為每個人的的時間和精力都是非常有限的,。 ????3. 讓其他人各司其責(zé)。西曼斯基注意到,，有時,，完美主義者做任何事都堅持事必躬親，原因是“下屬不負(fù)責(zé)任,，或者并未努力工作使自己能有突出的表現(xiàn),。這樣的問題非常棘手,，但如果你的情況確實如此，那你應(yīng)該與那名下屬坐下來談?wù)?，明確你對他的期望,。” ????他認(rèn)為,，不然,，如果總是讓能力更優(yōu)秀、效率更高的團(tuán)隊成員替這樣的員工收拾爛攤子,，只會讓他們逐漸厭煩,，并且開始尋找出路——最后，團(tuán)隊負(fù)責(zé)人別無選擇,，只能自己承擔(dān)所有工作,，而這必然會導(dǎo)致身心疲憊。 ????4. 從工作中尋找更多樂趣,。沒錯,，就是要找樂子。完美主義者通常會陷入焦慮,。大量調(diào)查顯示,，“如果人們不再擔(dān)心犯錯，他們的表現(xiàn)就會更加卓越,?！?/p> ????西曼斯基建議：“要有意識地從自己的工作中尋找新鮮、有趣的方面,。在集中精力達(dá)成目標(biāo)的同時,，享受工作的過程，這樣就不會過于關(guān)注是否會出錯,。”并且,，這會逐漸減少完美主義者的擔(dān)憂和焦慮,，最終幫助他們?nèi)〉酶怀龅某删汀?/p> ????反饋：你是完美主義者嗎？或者你的同事中是否有完美主義者,？你認(rèn)為職場中的完美主義到底是優(yōu)點,，還是缺點？歡迎留言評論,。 ????譯者：阿龍/汪皓 |
????What's more, if you're like most perfectionists, you've been functioning this way for a long time, so it has become second nature. "Adult perfectionists usually tell me that they were often late turning in term papers in college, and even homework in high school, for the same reasons they're missing work deadlines now," Szymanski observes. ????"The desire to keep on making something better and better is terrific, of course," he adds. "The danger is, you can get lost in your own head and forget what's most important to your audience." ????But don't be discouraged. "The fact that you've been promoted twice in four years shows that some parts of your perfectionism are working for you," notes Szymanski. "What your boss is saying is, you need to tweak it a little." ????Here are four ways to start: ????1. Ask for input from others. Begin with your boss. "Some deadlines are more flexible than others. You need to know which ones are hard and fast, and which ones have some 'give' in them," Szymanski says. ????"Then try showing rough drafts of your work to others, especially your boss, as you get nearer to completing it." ????Perfectionists usually struggle with this, he says, because "they want others to see only their very best stuff. But saying to people, 'This is a work in progress. What do you think?' can be enormously helpful in avoiding the tunnel vision that makes you miss deadlines." Who knows, a little collaboration might make the final product even better. It's been known to happen. ????2. Set priorities. "Perfectionists tend to believe that everything is equally important," notes Szymanski. "It isn't." ????His book goes into detail about how to decide what you really need to hold on to and what you can trust colleagues to handle, but the point is to "pick the five most crucial tasks and keep those. Loosen your grip on everything else," he advises. After all, it's less about lowering your standards than it is about acknowledging that you have limited time and energy. ????3. Hold others accountable. Szymanski has noticed that perfectionists sometimes insist on doing everything themselves because "the real issue, which can be uncomfortable to deal with, is that a subordinate is not doing his or her work, or is not making the effort to excel at the job. If that's the case, you need to sit down with that person and make your expectations clear." ????Otherwise, he says, the more capable and productive members of your team will get tired of picking up the slack and start eyeing the exits -- and you'll end up doing all the work, whether you want to or not, a sure road to burnout. ????4. Have more fun. Yes, fun. Perfectionism is often driven by anxiety. Yet voluminous research shows that "people actually perform better when they stop worrying about making a mistake," Szymanski notes. ????"Try consciously looking for what's fresh and intriguing about what you're doing. Enjoying what you do, while you concentrate on reaching a goal, will help you focus less on what could go wrong," he says -- which can, over time, stop feeding the fear and anxiety that keep many perfectionists from reaching their stellar potential. ????Talkback: Are you a perfectionist, or do you work with one? In your view, is perfectionism an advantage at work, or more of a weakness? Leave a comment below. |
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